Welcome. I am impressed with your self-reliance. I hope the rift with your parents will heal over time.
Thanks for the welcome SE-man.
Regarding my self-reliance, I would say I felt I'm a grown man and should not have to depend on my family. In fact, I felt they too wanted me to spread my wings and fly away; except they wanted me to get married to a Muslim so they can be proud of me, given the social pressure around marriage among Indian Muslims.
Once I was out, it was quite a liberating experience. When you've been controlled and manipulated all your life, being left alone is extremely liberating. They think they are shunning me and causing me emotional pain, but actually I couldn't stand the preaching any more. They intensified the preaching towards me because they smelt that I was leaning towards Atheism.
Now I thoroughly enjoy being eccentric and non-conformist.
You mentioned self-reliance. Much can be said about it. Ralph Waldo Emerson (a 19th century American philosopher who led the Transcendentalist movement) wrote a famous essay on self-reliance and thinking for yourself.