Why did you think it would be so difficult in the first place?
Because of my self esteem and low confidence. I just figured no one would really want to know me so why give them the chance to do the rejecting when I can just reject them from the off?
For the last 4yrs of my life I have gone 6 months upwards with no contact with other people, just phone calls to a close friend but 6 months maybe more not actually meeting up with her or anything, just chatting on the net. It's quite easy to lose your social skills if you lose your confidence and trust in people.
Plus the 8yrs of "who would ever want to be your friend" "I'm the only one who wants you, I'm the only one who likes you" from my ex hubby and you get a bag of nerves who starts to actually believe that shit.
You sound almost exactly like my wife dear. Her ex husband is a Christian nutjob. And she still tells me she didn't think she could do any better than him, since he always told her no one else would want her. I have always told her he is manipulative little boy, whose greatest joy in life is making others miserable. He acts quite a bit like some of the worst examples I have read about on here.
Just remember your ex's opinion is shit, you're better than he is. He is a little child who loves to manipulate, and derives great joy from making you and your family miserable. And frankly, the best way to get rid of extra stress in your life is to avoid any interaction with him.
Our kids go from halfway normal teens, to little assholes, immediately after interacting with him. Which is why I keep such things to an absolute minimum. And he is to never physically see them. At least till they turn 18. He knows he isn't welcome at our house. I have already told him if I see him, I'll squeeze his neck till his head pops off. Not for myself, but for the lasting damage he has done to this family.