Growing up, we didn't talk about Jannat much other than being told (as children and as adult-children of a dysfunctional religion) that it was just the bestest, most awesomest place, like chuck-e-cheeses meets disney world meets Funland (an amusement park in Karachi) meets the biggest banquet of the best food you could imagine. All that times like million gazillion infinity and stuff.
What's interesting is that Allah loves to talk about hell in vivid details, but leaves out such details about heaven to "your imagination" so that, well you don't need to imagine what to be afraid of, we'll provide that, you can just stay in la-la-land in your head about heaven so that you start believing in your own fantasy.
This is what islamonline has to say about women in heaven
In the very beginning, we would like to cite Ibn Kathir?s comment on the issue of men having Hoor Al-`Een. It reads:? Almighty Allah tells us that He will provide the residents of Paradise with beautiful wives who have big and lustrous eyes and 'whom no man or Jinn before them has touched' and who are 'Like unto rubies and coral'?.
In fact, Paradise is the abode of the believers in the Hereafter. Allah has prepared for His believing servants, males and females, in Paradise indescribable bliss that which no eye has seen, no ear has heard of and that has never ever crossed the minds of people, to the extent that even the person who has the least blessings in Paradise will think that he is the most blessed one.
In more than one Qur'anic verse, Allah, Most High, calls upon His servants to do their utmost in order to be favored with Paradise. For example, He says, "And vie one with another for forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Paradise as wide as are the heavens and the earth, prepared for those who ward off (evil)." (Al `Imran: 133)
All this indicates that in Paradise believing men and women will be showered with blessings; there is no room for discrimination based on gender in Paradise.
Focusing more on this issue, Sheikh `Atiyyah Saqr, former Head of Al-Azhar Fatwa Committee, adds:
?Here Allah mentions the Hoor Al`Een because in most cases men pursue women and not vice versa. As for women, Allah Almighty may marry them to any of the believers in Paradise, if they did not get married during worldly life, or He may compensate them by making them feel content with their position. It is also said that Allah may grant women some kind of beauty with which they will feel that they are better than the Hoor Al-`Een and that they are their mistress, so they will not love anyone other than their own husbands nor will they feel jealous of the Hoor Al-`Een.?
Keep the women fighting and competing within themselves. Keep the women subdued and "content" with "their position". Keep them "beautiful".
For Muslim men that is.