I find it hard to see you as an ENFJ because of my experience with an ENFJ...........but the more I think about it the more I think he was misdiagnosed and was actually and ENFP since everything about him screams ENFP, including that shitty feeling it leaves you with afterwards.
But if I compare you to an ENFJ I knew on another forum, then yeah I can see it. She was one hell of a woman, hard working, sympathetic without sugar coating everything the way i might, very smart and I seriously admired her. Unfortunately ENFJ's got a bad rep over on the mbti forum I used to frequent so she was always having to defend her own mind as people judged her based on their own negative real world experiences, but for myself I saw her as somebody worth admiring.
I also know another ENFJ in the real world who I've always liked too, my friend loathes her because they had an argument and ENFJ's don't forgive that easily, so even though my friend tried to mend bridges the damage was already done and has lasted 2 years between them on anymosity that is only lessened by each of them wanting to please me by pretending to get along for my sake.
You know some websites place ENFJ as my best choice for a partner............
(don't tell your partner I winked at you though, she might hit me or something
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Other than that though, I don't know that many ENFJ's, my friends are usually ExFP's so it's hard for me to say too much since my experience is limited to just the ones I can think of, so other than the ones I know being people I admire for many reasons, usually the ability to be as soft as me without letting people ride roughshod over them, that's my thoughts.
Did you do a test with percentages? usually there are a fair few variations based on how much of an E, N F or J you are. ergo I'm INFP, but my I fluctuates all the time, but my other letters are always high.