To smack kids or not to smack..........
Reply #187 - June 30, 2018, 04:57 AM
Just decided to come back here and have a read, one thing that caught my eye in this thread is the general expectation that kids who were beaten would, or at least are very likely to grow up to hate their parents.
I was regularly beaten for next to no provocation, and recently reading and learning about narcissistic parenting was mostly due to reasons based on my parents always needing to simply feel and remain superiority, control and dominance over me. The beatings extended to more than just slaps - footwear, canes, punches, kicks, and any obtainable object within reach would be hurled my way for as long as I could remember even from the age of around 5. All the signs of this were apparent in my everyday and still diminished social functioning, yet no teachers or similar people ever recognised it when I was younger. Another example is I do not believe it was bad behaviour to have only gotten straight Bs and not a single A in my GSCEs, but not only was I physically beaten and verbally dominantly abused and made to feel like nothing but a worthless pile of shit my entire life, to this day not just my parents but even my brother will constantly tell me that I never did well at school, that I was and still am thick / dumb / retarded / waste of space - my father even told me when I was around 24 that if he had known how I would have turned out he would have had me aborted. And these few issues listed here aren't even the tip of the iceberg of the lifetime I have had to experience.
Yet despite applying for and having now been on the council housing waiting list for over 7 years, and mainly due to being a single male with no children, I am never given priority for housing, and I have asked for but resources to help men in my situation are literally non existent because society still seems to still think that only women are abused and help / shelters.
Any effort or slightest mention to anyone of any of these issues or expressing any amount of dislike towards my family is met with the usual 'How dare you complain about / hate your family? Your parents always love you, etc' victim blaming which as far as I can tell also happens because of my gender as I cannot believe anyone would talk to or treat women the same way.
Usually people will also automatically lump me in the 'lonely basement virgin club that just want to rape all women and kill people' when hearing / reading the slightest information about me if I try to provide it online (fix your personality / attitude = no.1 response I get), and yet society as a whole wonders why so many men end up killing themselves, and they are just seen as selfish self absorbed creepers who can't get dates because of their bad personalities (literally all I ever seen written about anyone in my situation). Ive already had a double figure of councellers, pysciatrists and what not, and people think that telling me to 'just get help' is meant to fix everything. These people literally do nothing but talk to you, write stuff down, ask where you see yourself in 10 years time and thats it. After the appointments end, nothing. I don't comprehend how this classifies as 'help' of any kind.
My life pretty much has less worth and value than that of a cockroach, and Ive already exhausted what limited and entirely useless methods of 'help' are available.
We keep hearing about how Jack Straw or the French government have mentioned the veil and our doing so puts us in the same boat as them. How so? I want a ban on the burka, neqab and child veiling.
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