What are the roles of men and women within a Muslim family?
In the Islamic family, the role of men and women is complementary rather than competitive. The Quran makes it clear that "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given one more strength than the other, and because they support them from their means" IV-34.
If women are weaker than men physically, then why did Hazrat Khadija fight? She should have sat at home and served the Prophet.
The Quran makes it clear that the husband has full responsibility for the maintenance of the family. The wife on the other hand is responsible for the welfare of the family. Their duties are described as equal in importance but not identical in substance. The qawama is merely a matter of leadership and directing in exchange for duties that should be performed. For it is the husband who pays the dowry and he is the one who provides the house.
Dowry is illegal in most (civilised) countries. Hence Islam is outdated. If dowry is still accepted in Muslim societies, again it shows that women are just objects that are sold to men.
Sisters, I would like to convey an important message to you. If you dearly love Allah, you will accept everything He says and orders us to do. Allah is the All Knowing of His creation and knows what is best for them. I accept what Allah orders me to do because I am positive that Allah is wise and knows what is best for me. The Prophet taught us that if a woman dies and her husband is pleased with her, she will enter Paradise.
Of course, if a husband is displeased with his wife, her ticket to paradise is put in the shredder and torn to bits. If this isn?t evidence that Islam is a religion for men, then I don?t know what is. Actually, scrap that, I do know what else proves that it is the religion for man, read my other points.
Is there a gap between Islamic principles and the practice of Muslims?
Unfortunately, many Muslims are unaware or ignorant about true Islamic teachings, due to a lack of education. Such Muslims practice a distorted Islam, which has been contaminated by their cultural traditions, which have no Islamic basis.
I have read the Islamic bases and the ?true? Islam you mention seems much worse than the ?distorted? Islam that people supposedly practice. If it were the true religion, it could not possibly be distorted. The Quran would not be so unclear and every Muslim sect would live in harmony. The reason for this divide is Islam itself.
This impure Islam is not based on any authentic Islamic sources, the Quran or the recorded teachings and practices of Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him.
This is the typical argument whenever one argues with Muslims of various different sects. ?My version is better than their version? (which, also refers to other religions ? it?s just like a silly argument between children that ?my imaginary friend is better than your imaginary friend?)
One should therefore judge a religion by its teachings and not by people who claim to be its followers. The issue of feminism in Islam is meaningless. The coming of Islam has brightened the life and future of women, in which Islam has lifted up their level to the same level as men. Islam upholds women to the highest and most respected position. Islam has also protected women from being mere objects to satisfy the desires of men. The Quran describes women as a symbol of beauty, justice and love. Muslim women have also been acknowledged for their important role in the establishment of the Islamic community.
Of course the issue of feminism in Islam is meaningless, because feminism and Islam cannot go together! Women who fight for independence, who fight for their rights over their own bodies don?t exactly have it easy in Islam. Islam does not uphold women to the highest and most respected position, they are forced to cover up as their beauty will make men lose control, and we can?t have that now can we? Because men are not responsible for self control, women are responsible. If men and women were equal in Islam, women would not be subjected to forced marriages, and other horrible experiences. Islam has objectified women more, by making them reproductive vessels, they ARE there just to satisfy men. That satisfaction could be in the form of a good, obedient wife who gives in to sexual intercourse whenever the husband wishes to do so, give birth to Muslim kids, cook a nice meal and not have her own opinion about her body. The Quran describes women as the symbol of beauty, but also states that the beauty should be hidden away. It also states that the beauty should listen to her husband or fear admonishing or beatings on a more extreme level.
I expect you to respond with many excuses for religion. The case of religion, including Islam proves that the role of women has not changed since the beginning of time and that women are here for a particular purpose which does not include their own free will to enjoy their life. Women are subjected to honour killings, domestic violence, rape, and emotional abuse throughout their lives in the Islamic world. They are interrogated in Islamic countries such as Saudi Arabia to ensure that they have a male relative chaperoning them when they are going out. All that is missing is the leash.
You may make excuses and say that rape, domestic violence and other social ills occur in the Western world, but my response is, they do not follow religion. If a world with and without religion has the same consequences, there is no purpose of religion. Morality evidently has not been enforced by religion, only hatred, fear and oppression.
I have also analysed some of Aminah Mah?s article on the oppression of Muslim women.
Oppression of Muslim women
There is some truth in what these women had seen. Muslim girls, in countries such as France, Singapore and even Turkey, not allowed to go to school with their head coverings suffer oppression. Girls deprived of their rights to education, to speak their minds, girls forced into arranged marriages, women suffering domestic violence, honour killings, so on and so forth, are oppressed.
One could perhaps give non-Muslims the excuse for oppressing Muslim women due to their lack of understanding, their fear of the unknown, and even blame the sources of their information. Yet when Muslims oppress Muslim women, one must make a distinction between what constitute cultural practices and what is in the religion.
Actually it quite clearly states in the Quran in Surah 4:34 that a woman must be obedient to her husband or suffer the consequences. This is a classic example of oppression. It?s not cultural, it comes from the Quran.
The Islamic teachings are not always practised by Muslims. Many cultural practices, even beliefs, are sexist. Throughout history, up till now, millions of women still suffer oppression. Muslim men who ill-treat their womenfolk lack understanding in the essence of Islamic teachings. They often quote verses out of context and use them to oppress women.
I have read the Quran, and there is only one context to take it in, it is not exactly a literary piece of art work. It cannot be as that would mean that only those who are skilled in literature, be it Arabic, English, Dutch, etc, would be able to take the correct context of it. This is not the case as many uneducated Muslims are able to read the Quran, but analysing a piece of text like that means it will be taken in different ways. Which brings me to the point that it is not in fact the perfect book, as the perfect book cannot be taken out of context.
Christians can argue that people who read the Christian bible are taking it out of context. Who?s to say that the Bible is actually the true word of god? Or the Torah, the Sanskrit, etc?
These men are experts in claiming their rights, but are rather ignorant in fulfilling their rights towards their wives and daughters. As long as one continues to remain in a state of ignorance, the problem will persist. These people will never be able to do justice to a religion that came to liberate the weaker members of the society, namely, the women, the poor and the downtrodden from tyranny and injustice.
Women have a purpose according to Islam, so they are not being downtrodden through Islamic eyes. They are fulfilling their purpose.
The status of women in Islam
What does Islam say about women?
Let me take you back to more than 14 and half centuries ago. Women in the pre-Islamic Arabia were among the most despised, ill-treated and oppressed of all. Families would dig a hole in the ground at the time a woman was giving birth, and as soon as the baby was born and had its gender identified, one of two decisions would be made. If the baby was a girl, she would be buried there and then; if it was a boy, the family would rejoice and celebrate!
Why is it that whenever there is a discussion about Islam and women, the comparison is made between Islam and the treatment of women before Islam? How about modern day? Women outside of Islam have it a lot easier and live a better lifestyle than Muslim women. They are able to be moral without Islam. If you need the fear of a god, or a hell to be a good person, you are not really a good person, you are doing it for selfish purposes.
Regarding this evil practice, Allah gave severe warnings to those who took part in this monstrous crime in a number of places in the Qur?an, that they will, on the day of Judgment, be questioned as to why the baby girls were murdered in this manner? Those people will surely have to suffer the consequences of their evil doings. (At-Takwir 81:8, 9, 14).
In reality, more and more women are attracted to Islam, partly due to the status Islam gives to women. Ibrahim Hooper, national communications director for the Council on American-Islamic Relations commented that the majority of converts are from the African American community and women of European heritage. (O?Crowley, 1999) (
http://www.nj.com/features/ledger/bo695c.html)
In Australia, it was believed that 4 out 5 converts are women. (Buckley, Salam 1995)
I have also known of many women as well as men who have converted to Islam. I have also known of women as well as men who have renounced Islam after their conversion as they realise what Islam actually is. Like I have mentioned before, Muslim baby girls may not be murdered nowadays, but Muslim fathers still prefer a male heir. This is not a cultural viewpoint; it is because women are such a hassle in Islam as they have to preserve their dignity. Muslim men have it much easier than Muslim women.
Allow me to share some evidences from the authentic sources of Islamic teachings, namely the Qur?an, the words of God, and hadith, which are narrations from the teachings, sayings and actions of the Prophet (pbuh).
In a hadith, narrated by Al-Mughira: The Prophet (pbuh) said: Allah (swt) has forbidden for you
1. to be undutiful to your mother
2. to bury your daughters alive
3. not to pay the rights of the others (charity etc.)
4. to beg of men (when it can be avoided).
(Sahih Al-Bukhari, Vol. 3, Hadith no. 591)
The rights of wives are not mentioned here. That?s convenient.
Right to choose marriage partner and the right to fair treatment:
?O ye who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness, ?live with them on a footing of kindness and equity if ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.? (4:19)
The Prophet (pbuh) in his attempt to abolish the unfair treatment of girls among the Arabs, left a number of narrations that ?daughters were to be cherished, educated and supported until they reached the age of maturity: the reward for doing this was to be no less than Paradise.? (Al-Khattab, 1997, p.34).
There are so many contradictions in the Quran and it is funny that Muslims who argue that Islam is peaceful and does not oppress women always pick and choose the Surah?s from the Quran that mention some act of kindness, completely ignoring a few verses later where women are subjected to neglect or admonishment. ?It?s okay that you have 3 other wives honey, as long as you treat me with kindness and equity, I don?t mind you sleeping with 3 other women?
Conclusion
Mankind will continue to commit injustice, again and again, out of greed, out of hunger for power, out of selfish desires to conquer, to possess, if we forget that there is always the Supreme power over us. No matter how powerful we think we are, no one can escape death. Let us not forget, that one day, real Justice will be brought to our reality. Ignorance caused Aminah Assilmi to suffer oppression, ignorance caused Muslim women to suffer oppression, and women around the world will continue to suffer oppression if we neglect our duty to find out what equity and equality really mean. No one knows it better than the Creator Himself. For He is the Sole Designer of the universe, the Creator of man and woman, Who alone has the definite knowledge about how human should best treat each other, Who knows the very purpose of our existence. All we need to do, is to submit. The many questions people have about life have been answered to readers? full satisfaction in the Qur?an, leaving many awestruck, at the precision, the authoritative and majestic tone, and the many facts revealed so long ago but have only been proven in recent years. The miracle of the Qur?an will continue to convince those who look for answers about life, with a truly open mind. Would you care to read it before it is too late?
If Islam was the true religion, it would not allow for the oppression of women in the way that it has taken its toll. It would be able to fight that oppression, but the truth is that it is ignored over and over again. Fighting the ?infidels? is a bigger priority than granting Muslim women rights. A woman is designed to submit, to her husband and to Allah, despite her treatment. The Quran is not a miracle; it is full of flaws, contradictions and errors. It has no scientific reasoning. I have read it with an open mind and realised that it really is not the religion for me, nor is any religion. I am kind and giving, I am a moral person, but have no faith in a ?supreme entity?. If Allah is merciful, he will put me in the supposed paradise as I am a good person.
From an ex-Muslim Atheist and her partner.[/quote]
The response I got was naturally of evasion:
Hi,
I haven't read your email and am not interested in doing so because it is easy for people to send any rubbish they like via emails. However, if you live in Australia, may be we can arrange a meeting to sit and discuss face to face inshallah?
To which I replied:
As an ex muslim, I do not feel safe meeting anybody from online.
Why give out an email if you will not reply? Also, you say people can send any rubbish via email so you are not interested, yet you impose your views through people's letter boxes, like the green booklet you recently posted around. A little hypocritical for you to refuse to read text when that is your deliverance method for your message.
Of course, it is a little unfair for you to brand my email rubbish when you haven't even read it yet. But that is okay, I expected such a response. A little disappointed that I didn't get a more detailed response to it as I spent my time reading through your articles.
Shame really.
If you aren't going to read or reply to emails it's probably not a wise decision to print your email address on your publication and put a webform on your website.
Take it easy mate.
I know my analysing the article wasn't exactly thorough, but I was short on time. I do want to go through it again and add and remove stuff, any suggestions welcome
I believe people on CEMB are much more well read than I am with regards to Islam (not just regarding the oppression of women but other issues in Islam too).