"you must read it in arabic"
There is only One verse that has a better meaning in Arabic then English, all other 6200+ verses are either neutral either more humane and enlightened in the English version.
"thats not TRUE sharia law"
There is not a single law in the Sharia today that is objectively better then the current secular laws where you live. They might claim that banning pork and alcohol is better. Or that polygamy and hand-chopping is better. Or that the highly male-favored marriage rules are better. But that is not objective and they will have a very hard time subjectively proving their point.
"you are taking it out of context"
Accuse you of taking things out of context and in the same paragraph take something out of context. i.e. verse 5:32-3, the one about torture through dismemberment.
and most of them simply called me names when I raised a good argument.
Not directly their fault, and it is good to know where this comes from: Their imam will swear on Friday inside the mosque. Their modern writers will swear as they make points defending islam. The islamic blogs they read in foreign language will swear as they defend islam. In the end, they have not been taught better. The culture is incapable of teaching its own reason because then the culture would self-destroy. And stagnation had always been favored over a dangerous change.