Thank you for your post, Wahhabist. I can relate to so much of what you have said on a profound level.
So many do not realise that the reason why there is such a negative reaction to something as natural as homosexuality in Africa and the Caribbean is due to imported ideas that were brought to us by colonisers. They believe that the opposite is true.
I participated in Veganuary this year and got a shocked reaction from a Black guy who had offered me steak. He said that the reason he was surprised is that "Black people like meat", as if we are a monolith and none of us are allowed to have personal tastes and preferences.
When I was at Carnival with my boyfriend (who is White), most of the hostile stares we got came from Black men. Strange how some people can view you as a traitor for having a relationship based on how well you get along with the person, as opposed to their race. Thankfully the majority were chill with us and we don't get any comments, minus a few positive ones though
. This is one of the many reasons why I love London.
Lol tell me about it! People judge you for your hobbies, the type of music you listen to, the way you talk, your style and pretty much everything. The religion thing provokes the strongest reaction, from my personal experience. It's as though individualism is equivalent to self-hatred.
I never reveal my views on religion unless asked, because like you said it's nothing special. But I find that a number of Black people will bring up religion, God and Church when trying to look for common interests to chat about. At times like this I don't have a choice (many just make the assumption that I'm a Christian). I even had a client ask about my religious views once when I was trying to keep things professional and impersonal. I found myself being sent leaflets from her church the following weeks because she thought they would "bring me joy"
Congratulations on the weight loss