@Quod Sum Eris
The point is to recognize the salience of color in the experience and difficulty of being ex-Muslim.
Granted, but we're coming at it from different angles. You're coming at it from an American perspective (colour), I'm coming at it from, what I suppose in your eyes would be "Old World" prejudices. Americans are concerned with race, the majority of the rest of the world, whether it be European, African, Indian or Asian, is ethnicity.
I'm not saying my experiences are comparable with pocs. I honestly don't know. For all I know, it would be preferable for people to tell from a distance I'm "other" and compose themselves rather than get close to me, and me having to experience that "Oh" moment in real time. But when I mention some of my experiences, such as broken bones, beaten to the point I black out, faeces shoved through my families letter box, and a shitload more things I could mention because I'm visibly not native, and you reply with "the salience of colour". That is literally oppression Olympics. That is you, at least it seems to me, completely dismissing my own lived experiences as a result of my being an ethnic minority while you sit comfortably in America. It pisses me off, not because I want a seat at the table, but because your dismissiveness is, frankly, offensive.
Like when I first read your reply I had the urge to type "Come talk to me when you're thrown off a hill at seven-years-old onto the rocks below and end up with broken bones because you're an ethnic minority." I shouldn't have to say that. I shouldn't have to justify my own life to you to be "worthy" to talk about discrimination. The fact that it even came to mind at all is oppression Olympics.
I'm not saying I've lived your life, I'm not saying you've lived mine. I'm simply saying that you have an American view of things. And like I've said before, if I were born in the US, I'd just fall into the overall fold of white. But I didn't and I haven't had that experience, and I resent you judging me by those standards.