I use the word community loosely I guess. Where I live, it seems to me that more women are wearing the full veil, let alone the hijab since the days when I was a kid. Parents send their kids to the local mosques en masse after school. We all congregate on Fridays to listen to the sermon where one of the recurrent themes is raising your kids in the Islamic mould. Part of my own personal alienation from my family is how I felt I was being raised to be a Muslim more than raising a happy child. It starts with the mosques that we still support. Parents send their kids to mosques to learn nothing of value, and half of these places seem to allow the 'teachers' to beat up the kids if you're misbehaving or not learning properly. It's no surprise there's not much room to declare yourself an apostate. I haven't travelled much to know how my area fares compared to others. I guess there are more enclaved 'communities' than others.
Sorry I shouldn't have latched on to the word community. I just hate the description 'the muslim community'. just winds me up for some reason. I don't see many full veil wearers where i am but i do see a lot of young girls wearing hijabs (yet their mums don't cover up). i'm not sure if they do it for fashion, rebellion, identity or allah. some of my cousins wear hijabs and they're pretty cool with it. it was their choice. but they all live abroad.
I know a couple of people who are quran hafiz and went on to uni and then lost their faith and told their parents - it wasn't easy. I know others who have lost faith and not told their parents and are just carrying on with their lives as normal....they're just not super religious. education seems to be the answer.....sometimes.
The beatings in the mosque needs to be reported btw. That shouldn't be allowed.
I do feel for you living in that environment. It sounds suffocating. but just try and finish your education and find a good job and move away. make that your goal and your inspiration for moving forward.