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  • I just came out to my brother
     OP - June 09, 2015, 01:38 PM
    Hello,

    I just came out to my brother, and as you would expect from the average muslim, it didn't go well at all.

    Anyone who has been through this, can you tell me what to expect in the coming weeks to years?
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #1 - June 09, 2015, 02:32 PM
    What do you mean by "didn't go well"?
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #2 - June 09, 2015, 10:26 PM
    As an ex-Muslim or as gay?
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #3 - June 10, 2015, 01:14 AM
    As gay.

    He started off with how gays are all disgusting and we ended up  I ended up saying that muslims will be the first to say they're a religion of peace and yet oppress other groups every time they are majority. Sorry I'm being vague, I'm shaken up by the whole thing
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #4 - June 10, 2015, 01:20 AM
    Ohh, shit. Sorry to hear that, lookout.  far away hug

    I can't say I've had any comparable experience with that, except my husband did have a minor freakout way back when I confessed to finding women attractive and had some choice words for me, including but not limited to me being disgusting. It's just really rough to take for people with these conservative values.

    Do you feel safe?
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #5 - June 10, 2015, 01:34 AM
    Stay safe friend.  far away hug

    This site has locations of support groups in your area in the UK for those struggling with coming out as gay. I'd say it would be a good idea to look into it:

    http://www.stonewall.org.uk/at_home/whats_in_my_area/default.asp#ddl
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #6 - June 10, 2015, 01:50 AM
    Quote from: lua on June 10, 2015, 01:20 AM
    Ohh, shit. Sorry to hear that, lookout.  far away hug

    I can't say I've had any comparable experience with that, except my husband did have a minor freakout way back when I confessed to finding women attractive and had some choice words for me, including but not limited to me being disgusting.

    The obvious retort would be "Yeah I know exactly what you mean. People who find women attractive are the most disgusting people ever."

    Then watch his jaw drop as it sinks in. dance
    Devious, treacherous, murderous, neanderthal, sub-human of the West. bunny
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #7 - June 10, 2015, 01:55 AM
    Cheesy Oh, if only I were that quick on my feet.
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #8 - June 10, 2015, 10:28 AM
     far away hug

    Be safe Lookout - hope he isn't going to give you any more crap. I guess if he was coming out with 'gays are disgusting' it would be pretty hard to not to say something, but it sounds like this wasn't a 'planned' coming out so I hope you can keep body and soul together and perhaps seek the help of those support groups asbie mentioned.
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #9 - June 10, 2015, 10:38 AM
    Thanks guys,

    coming out to him was to prepare me for my parents.
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #10 - June 10, 2015, 03:44 PM
    I would suggest against doing that if you feel it could anger them and in any way threaten your safety. Your safety is paramount.
    Quote from: yeezevee on February 11, 2016, 02:05 PM
    how fuck works without shit??


    Let's Play Chess!

    harakaat, friend, RIP
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #11 - June 10, 2015, 08:47 PM
    Quote from: Lookout on June 10, 2015, 01:14 AM
    He started off with how gays are all disgusting

    So does he think you're disgusting?
    `But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
     `Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad.  You're mad.'
     `How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
     `You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #12 - June 11, 2015, 06:53 AM
    Quote from: lua on June 10, 2015, 01:20 AM
    ... except my husband did have a minor freakout way back when I confessed to finding women attractive and had some choice words for me, including but not limited to me being disgusting. It's just really rough to take for people with these conservative values.



    My mother is super conservative and homophobia is widely spread in our culture. When I told her I was bi and didn't want her to arrange for me to meet a "good man" from the old country, her reply was "shut up and keep that shit to yourself" and then complained about me not knowing what is best for myself. Since then she pretended the incident never happened and ignores all my subtle hints about it.

    "The healthiest people I know are those who are the first to label themselves fucked up." - three
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #13 - June 13, 2015, 08:29 PM
    i hope he hasn't told your parents already, i would never tell my family i was bisexual. even if my mom seems chill. but it's good you're brave! just don't expect anything positive especially if they're super religious. be careful !
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #14 - June 17, 2015, 09:33 AM
    gosh, i don't know if i should now. This whole thing is overwhelming. I might be being naive in thinking that i can just come out willy nilly to 3rd world county parents and then leave and manage to sustain myself for the rest of my life.
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #15 - June 17, 2015, 10:57 AM
    There is another group of gay muslims, but I haven't their details.  As the Sergeant said in New York Blues - Be safe out there!
    When you are a Bear of Very Little Brain, and you Think of Things, you find sometimes that a Thing which seemed very Thingish inside you is quite different when it gets out into the open and has other people looking at it.


    A.A. Milne,

    "We cannot slaughter each other out of the human impasse"
  • I just came out to my brother
     Reply #16 - June 20, 2015, 10:44 PM
    Best not to tell other Muslims.
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