It's not her fault really she believes so much that she lets islam completely control our lives. To be fair when I married her I was the same as her and it is me who has changed. Problem is I can listen to criticism of Islam as have 2 cultures she can not entertain her beloved prophet being doubted. She has made it clear if she has to choose between me and mo I gonna lose. No surprise there as that's what islam told her 1st allah then mo everyone else comes after.
Ahh, I remember that. In Saudi culture, it's not uncommon at all for the mother (and maybe the father) to be loved and put way ahead of your wife. Like if you and your mother-in-law were dangling off the edge of a cliff each holding on to one of the husband's hands in a The Good Son situation, you better believe you, the wife, are getting dropped.
And I knew that even before meeting my Saudi husband and I wasn't surprised when he delicately tried explaining this to me and he was relieved that it had been forgiven in advance.
What I didn't realize, though, was that Mohammed was above all of us, and one time when I was trying to get him to cool it with the hadith stuff he turned on me and was like, "Then you're calling the Prophet a liar. And we Muslims love him more than anything in the world. More than our wives, more than our children, even more than our mothers. Do you know how big love that is to love more than our mother?" And I thought that was spectacularly sad--Jesus, more than your own kids, this old man in the desert?--but I wondered if it was really true, or if it's just something you're supposed to believe.
I can say that when he finally became an apostate, he dropped Mohammed like he was a bunch of live coals. I'd like to think that, if he lost me, he'd at least have a week of eating ice cream from a tub and playing sad breakup songs, or if he'd lost his mother or his children he'd be devastated for much longer. At least in his case, I think when he said "Mohammed," it was all of his religious beliefs and faith and identity wrapped up in the Mohammed packaging. That way, it's much more understandable. I probably would have felt much less annoyed at the time had I realized that sooner. It wasn't that he actually loved some dude he never met more than his family. It was that he loved his faith and loved his identity.