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  • Fetishes
     OP - March 19, 2015, 09:55 PM

    Hey guys

    I know I have been relatively inactive on this forum recently but I came across this that I simply could NOT stop myself from sharing and I do hope some of you read it.

    Now I know most of us are familiar with Islams shaming and haya approach to sexual encounters and also placing many barriers on what people can and can't do sexually.

    I have to admit I am a woman who has certain, lets say sexual preferences  Wink so this particular forum got my blood boiling a bit, especially this one guys post. To me it sounds like he is trying to find a way to justify his fetishes so he can carry them out.

    Anyway here is the thread: http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?408399-Perverted-Addictions-Why-Can-t-I-Just-Quit!


    this particular part stuck out for me:

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    Thankyou Mr.President for your valuable feedback !

    Just To clear things up : (addressing generally)

    1) My fetish is NOT related to "vanilla" pornography or nudity in ANY WAY. It is an "odd" fetish and it's oddity could be compared to other fetishes out there like spanking / balloon popping / watersports etc etc.

    2) It's not harmful or dirty in any way BUT ofcourse it is not meant to be sexual and is therefore against nature. It comprises the elements of Submission / Domination / Power / Control but it's not the actual BDSM category (Human-Human), just relates to it and involves the use of an object. That "object" is the central material creating role play.

    3) I had always and still (As a young child till now), found/find nudity and explicit pornography disgusting and shameful, I don't watch it but use "normal/straight" fantasy as a LAST RESORT against my fetish. This allows substitution and hence the fetish not being reinforced plastically. I was the extremely innocent and modest type of child who would turn his head away even from the slightest explicit image, I just became an unfortunate victim of "satanic kinks" and this upsets me whole heartedly / greatly,

    4) The fetish attacked it self an year or so after the major traumatic experience during which I had CRIED around age 5. ( arose automatically/spontaneously - I remember the first moment Age 6 ).

    5) Generally speaking, people with ODD perversion / fetishes / sexual deviations were victims of unfortunate and innocent traumatic experiences (during their very early years), which were beyond their control, arose as a result from deep emotional stuff and a very foundational part of their personality ( eg. a fear from something such as balloon popping / vomiting / spanking- all are fetishes), and have remain unresolved. The differentiating experiences between people with and without the fetish is that the person who developed it, developed from having a MASSIVE OVERWHELMING fear in the first place.

    I found an extremely informative website although it sources from the bible and is for Christians but no doubt it has very good information. It states that :-

    "How did you arrive at this state of mind? Most sins start gradually, easing you from the truth in a step by step manner. For a male, sexual arousal is expressed in muscular tension, in particular there are sphincter muscles in the groin which give males erections when they tighten. Such is the bane of adolescent males since every small tension triggers spontaneous erections, such as nervousness in standing before a class to get a talk. Obviously, spankings also create strong tensions and thus strong erections. The problem is that you focused on the physical response and tied it mentally to sexual pleasure. Repeated dwelling on the matter reinforced the pattern in your mind making it an ingrained habit.They appeal to people's baser instincts to dominate others (the "pride of life" - I John 2:16-17). Thereby, they get a person's heart beating faster. The thought of pain makes a person tense in sympathy. Combined they make erections more likely. What you need to realize is that you are being manipulated and not for your benefit. "
     


    It always amazes me the pains a muslim has to take to fight being human

    "I Knew who I was this morning, but I've changed a few times since then." Alice in wonderland

    "This is the only heaven we have how dare you make it a hell" Dr Marlene Winell
  • Fetishes
     Reply #1 - March 19, 2015, 10:22 PM

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    I have to admit I am a woman who has certain, lets say sexual preferences

     

    Read perv by the psycologist jesse bering.  He argues that it's incorrect to talk about fetishes as something unusual or strange but that everyone has some sort of fetish in the form of their unique sexual tastes.

    We all get turned on by certain things that would be turn offs for others and vice versa.

    You'd be hard pressed to find someone who doesn't have a fetish.

    In my opinion a life without curiosity is not a life worth living
  • Fetishes
     Reply #2 - March 19, 2015, 10:33 PM

    Ye thats not my issue Smiley Im really fine with my sexuality

    Just this article is so sad

    "I Knew who I was this morning, but I've changed a few times since then." Alice in wonderland

    "This is the only heaven we have how dare you make it a hell" Dr Marlene Winell
  • Fetishes
     Reply #3 - March 20, 2015, 06:12 AM

    It's sad to see people who just can't accept who they are and enjoy life. I agree with TDR, we all have our "fetishes", some more than others and some more "specific" than others... but, why should we be ashamed of that? Whatever the reason for your sexual preference, who cares? You enjoy it with someone who feels the same way.


    "The healthiest people I know are those who are the first to label themselves fucked up." - three
  • Fetishes
     Reply #4 - March 20, 2015, 11:11 AM

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    UsiGX
    Re: Perverted Addictions: Why Can't I Just Quit!

    Is the process of developing a fetish similar to in context with becoming homosexual i.e both happen at a young age and are mental disorders. Just wondering....


    Oh dear.

    `But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.
     `Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat: `we're all mad here. I'm mad.  You're mad.'
     `How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.
     `You must be,' said the Cat, `or you wouldn't have come here.'
  • Fetishes
     Reply #5 - March 20, 2015, 04:38 PM

    It's sad to see people who just can't accept who they are and enjoy life. I agree with TDR, we all have our "fetishes", some more than others and some more "specific" than others..

     

    I'm grateful mine are relatively tame. I feel sorry for the people who have those extreme fetishes.

     In my uni newspaper they have a sex themed isssue for valentines day where they covered the topic of fetishes. They interviewed this one girl who said she would ask her boyfriend to beat her to the point where she couldn't stand anymore because it turned her on.

    Then there are also those people that can only orgasm while falling down the stairs.

    In my opinion a life without curiosity is not a life worth living
  • Fetishes
     Reply #6 - March 20, 2015, 06:02 PM

    ^ ye that seems highly inconvenient

    Although I don't like the way this man has to shame himself and think he is possessed by a devil for fetishes that don't sound all that bad. 

    Again its amazing the pains they have to take to fight being a human

    "I Knew who I was this morning, but I've changed a few times since then." Alice in wonderland

    "This is the only heaven we have how dare you make it a hell" Dr Marlene Winell
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