It's moreso that I don't want to hurt my parent/family....I know I would break their heart if I came out and told them I don't believe in Islam and say BTW, I'm engaged to a Jew....I'm looking for the best way to do it....but what I've gathered from the advice here is that there really isn't a best way...
The first step that you have to take is to acknowledge reality. You have to admit to the fact that there is no solution that you can implement that would make everyone live together happily ever after. Every solution has its advantages and disadvantages. It seems pretty clear to me what option you have to take. Don't live your life in fear. You only have one life, and you're already 29. Don't waste it. Live.