I'm not here much and haven't caught up on the entire thread, but if I may make an observation?
I was 21 at that time. I wasn't thinking of marrying then (or even now), but I was just worried that my afterlife won't be so rosy.
What strikes me (an ex-RC) is that martyrdom and jihad depend on superstition. People ask what harm there is in belief in god(s) and a person's personal beliefs about afterlives and such. They equate being religious with being moral as they were taught to do when young. They don't realise that no superstitions are necessary, but all superstitions are potentially harmful because by definition none of them are 'the truth'.
Afterlife, jihad and martyrdom all depend on religious superstition. They are all a consequence of religious teaching which is the enemy of critical thinking and seems inevitably to lead away from inclusiveness and towards sectarianism because religion is supposed
to be so important. Children are often taught there is nothing so bad as "losing one's faith" or being 'led to a false prophet'. I think I observe that religious faith is the root of the problem and disbelief is just relinquishing superstition, not 'losing faith' (nor losing anything of value). Lose religious faith and superstition is relinquished along with the concepts of 'true prophet', afterlife, jihad and matyrdom.
(Just my humble opinion).
P.S. Shiite Iraqi scholars Ahmad Al-Qabanji and al-Sistani may make very helpful statements sometimes, but they cannot question the superstitions.