Ok so has leaving Islam changed your views on how women should be treated?
- Has your attitude towards the role of women changed? Or did you grow up where everyone was equal?
No and Yes.
Did you have female siblings or relatives that you thought were being treated unfairly, growing up?
I can't think of any female relatives being treated unfairly while growing up.
Did you ever question this and what were the justifications you got?
I did query that of course knowing that Islam teaches woman should be covered and stuff like that, I never thought of the covering as anything bad and I kind of thought that it could reduce promisquity but then I heard of how one woman witness is not enough of evidence in the court of justice and stuff which made no sense at all to me, I had no excuse on this subjects, I just ignored them, willful ignorance.
Do you think there will be difference with how you treat your wife, than when you were following Islam?(Such as demanding a certain dress, and involvement in finances etc.)
Not really, I have actually thought that woman should deal with the money issue, why do I have to worry about it, let her deal with the household issues lol.
Did you ever encourage a woman in your family to do something she was prohibited to do under Islamic gender roles?
there has been no need for this.
The only people in my family who can be considered religious are my mother and my grandmother, my mother prays 5 times a day but doesn't wear a Hijab, she goes to work without Hijab, I really donät understand my mother, she is kind of weird, I do sometimes discuss religion with her and I did mention to her that under Islamic law it is ok to marry more than one wife and of course she consideres this disgusting and then I mentioned that to her that u can have slaves and I told her that the prohpet said this and it is in the Quran and she said I don't care who said it, that is wrong and disgusting but she still keeps praying, I ask her why, she just says , it makes her feel good, she feels there is something out there who can hear her prayers and who could help, she doesn't make any difference between Christians and Muslims, she has always basically tought me that Being Muslim and Christian is basically the same thing and she says she has never understood the fuss around I AM A MUSLIM U R A CHRISTIAN KUFFAR, she says we all turn to the same God but in different name.
I really don't understand her delusions though, she is a fairly intelligent person, she is a Mathematician, teaches Mathematics, she used to prepare my brother for Math Olympiads where he won 3rd place in Math competitions in the country and many other achievments, whatever, it is all a mystery to me, I don't understand why is she doing this, I asked her about hell once, she said except people like Hitler, Stalin and some other base bastards who have caused a lot of pain no one deserves to burn in Hell, she said people go to Heaven on basis of their merits even a nonbeliever who doesn't believe in God will go to heaven if he has done good deeds and a person who prays and believes and in the other hand does bad things will go to hell to cleanse himself.
So yeah this is the only thing I have tried with my mother, I have tried to discuss her something controversial like Slavery or polygamy and she doesn't support any of this, I think u can say that this is me encouraging her or proding some thoughts that might make her say, YO THAT IS NONSENSE and she did say that.
Anyways, my mom being a weirdo is nothing new, that is why I love her so much.
About my grandmother, I don't think she knows much about Islam, she hasn't read the Quran she just thinks that God is awesome and will save us all from pain and suffering.