I feel for this girl, I hope for her that life gets better and she finds safety and peace.
Reading things like this makes me so glad I left my X for my kids sake let alone my own sake. Considering his abusive behaviour towards my daughter when she was only a toddler, I can only imagine where it would've led as she got older. Thank fuck I left when I did.
That link doesn't say.. the lady is that girl's mother, Such brutal beatings of kids within desi homes happens only in step mother/ step father cases, It is rarely happens in normal Muslim homes unless there are other problem involved. More over, that doesn't have any burkha on her..
(Clicky for piccy!)Why is she blaming the girl for not reading Quran, when she herself appears not reading Quran or not even behaving like normal Muslim lady??
on all fronts of what you've just said. BS. And no, it's not only step parents who abuse their kids, and "normal" muslim families abuse their kids too. I should know, my parents are still together, and it wasn't exactly a walk in the park for me as a kid and even though I'm not pakistani, the pakistani parents I knew who abused their kids were the birth parents and not step-parents as you've assumed. I've known in my life-time plenty of "normal" muslim families from arabic backgrounds and pakistani backgrounds who abuse/d their kids. The only ones I haven't seen abuse their kids were indonesian parents, they seemed to have very loving relationships with their kids and didn't use physically punish their kids, that's not to say though that there wouldn't be indonesian parents who abuse their kids, as we all know that in every culture abuse towards children does happen and far too frequently.
What do you constitute as being a "normal" muslim family yeezevee?
What is a "normal" muslim lady supposed to act like?
Yeah she doesn't wear hijab or niqab, so what? That doesn't mean that she's not religious, it just means that culturally she probably doesn't think it's required and might interpret the qu'ran and hadith differently.
"Devout" and "good" muslims disobey the qu'ran all the time, disobey islam all the time, it's just that people take what they like and ditch the rest or follow what they've been taught or their particular version/brand of Islam. You have muslims who look down on those who don't wear the niqab, and hijabis who look down on those wearing the niqab, and non-hijab non-niqab women who look down on both and can be very religious, sometimes more so than those who do wear it.
Like muslim men who do anal on their wives even though it's haraam and yet will pray tahajjud and grow a beard and do extra sawm outside of Ramadhan. It's not about true obedience, it is impossible to follow all the rules of Islam anyway, it's impossible to be a perfect muslim as there are so many rules and sunnah that one cannot possibly do it. So people do what they like and act as though they know what they're on about. How can it be construed that she didn't feel it was in her right to hit her child according to islam when according to hadith and 'ulema it's the parents duty to hit their children for not praying, and this is only one step up from that. Of course parents who don't have power issues, won't feel the need to abuse their children, but even then, it can be hard for parents who grew up in that way and have sunnah and 'ulema backing to hit their children for not being religious enough to know any other way.
We have parents in the west who are Caucasian who even though they don't have any religious dogma telling them to punish their kids for not doing their religious duty who still abuse their kids even though they know it's wrong legally, as thats how they were raised and so they think that's the only answer in getting kids to listen and obey, and that's just those who don't go onto more chronic forms of it where the parents punish their children solely out of a power play. And these are people who don't have religious backing to do so.
Having religious backing to commit abuse gives parents license to do what they want and feel justified, it's just another excuse.
The thing is that it's illegal in the west to harm a child physically, especially if it leaves a mark or is done with an instrument. In pakistan and all over the arab world it's not so clear cut, parents get away with it all the time, usually only really severe cases will have something done about it and even then, the parent's are usually viewed as owning a child and therefore given more leniency. The cycle is one that increases with use, and becomes difficult to control on behalf of the parents, rage leads to more rage. Hitting a child out of anger is very risky that the parent will only get worse and do it for little things or imagined slights. And the cycle of abuse passes from generation to generation just like it does here, except that here it's getting harder for parents to keep passing it down as parents realize that it's not worth physically abusing a child where there is the risk that they could go to jail for it or have their children removed.
Also, child-protection enforce parenting classes on those who are in the high risk for abusing their children and so parents have greater means to learn how to parent effectively without using physical punishment. When parents from arabic or pakistani backgrounds come to the west, the UK, australia or where-ever, they think it's ok, not realizing or fully comprehending that they will get in trouble if they get caught. And people do do it 'cause they have religious justification.
Punishing another person for not being religious enough or good enough, is just one way to assert power over that person and make the perpetrator feel good about themselves for asserting through punishment and physical abuse that the other person isn't as good a "whatever" as they are.
Topic: Muslim woman beat girl, 10, with steel ladle for not reading enough of Koran