I saw a condom ad on tv whilst I was in Pakistan, I was rather surprised by it.
Oh please please please don't tell me it was that insane condom ad with the guys wearing body length condoms and singing and dancing?
On topic, being in the west was no better you know. I didn't really understand sex until I had sex. That was when I found out what happened.
I wish I had known, but my parents didn't allow those sort of questions and we weren't allowed to go to sex education classes.
This was me when i was 10
Me: Mummy, where do babies come from
Her: Allah gives babies to the couples he likes most.
You know, I found it very very hard to break out of my muslim background the first few times my kids asked about babies or sex.
I reacted quite badly and closed the topic down fast and I snapped because I didn't know what to say or what was right to say.
It has taken me a long time to relax enough to discuss things with them, and although I feel unbelievably uncomfortable discussing it with them, I make myself answer their questions honestly.
We went from one day "don't ask me questions like that, that's rude" (but way worse than that), to one day me randomly explaining exactly what happens.
Thing is its not like they came up and asked in some innocent way. My middle son came up to me once and asked me how men have sex together. I sort of froze and didn't know what the hell to say
and then he said "is it like the ladybirds we saw" (because we saw some ladybirds having sex) and then he started doing the motions...."like this mummy, is it like this?"
My friend had to intervene because I had another "muslim residual" panic moment, and she started the conversation and then I sat down and joined in and just spoke to him about everything.
I am constantly surprised by the amount of damage that has been done to my view of sex all because of how I was brought up.
Sex was dirty, ergo I still see it that way, and I am still working on trying to change that but failing miserably. Least i can do is try my hardest to make sure I don't pass this on to my kids.