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  • Question: Men-Only poll: Are Men are only after sex in a relationship?  (Voting closed: December 21, 2010, 01:32 PM)
  • Yes - 9 (25%)
  • No - 27 (75%)
  • Total Voters: 36

 Topic: Men are only after sex in a relationship?

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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #60 - December 18, 2010, 10:46 PM
    Quote from: Bardhi_i_zi on December 18, 2010, 10:29 PM
    well if u plan the marriage in about 3 months from the time you met, maybe you'll get lucky Tongue

    Haha, well, sadly marriages don't happen that fast. I don't think it'd make a good one either.
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #61 - December 18, 2010, 10:53 PM
    Quote from: calikid45 on December 18, 2010, 10:45 PM
    I can't speak for all males in the world but i can speak for myself and my circle of friends. I would say we all started out on one night stands and all tried to become "players", we acted as though we were sex crazed youth (which is what we were Smiley). Gradually over time most of us stopped living that life and me and most my friends just aren't interested in sex as a defining factor for our relationships, i would say we mostly seek companionship and women who are supportive and who are doing there own thing (school, career etc).

    clap

    Great answer. I take it as if you weren't having sex before, sex would have been a real important factor in relationship.
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #62 - December 18, 2010, 11:03 PM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on December 18, 2010, 10:20 PM
    I guess I'd never find someone to hold off until marriage. :\

    But your expecting more - how do you know you will be ready then? There's a possibility that you will want them to hold off forever.

    Also why do you want to hold off till marriage?  
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #63 - December 18, 2010, 11:04 PM
    Quote from: muddy on December 18, 2010, 10:53 PM
    clap

    Great answer. I take it as if you weren't having sex before, sex would have been a real important factor in relationship.



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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #64 - December 18, 2010, 11:10 PM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on December 18, 2010, 10:46 PM
    Haha, well, sadly marriages don't happen that fast. I don't think it'd make a good one either.


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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #65 - December 18, 2010, 11:36 PM
    Quote from: IsLame on December 18, 2010, 11:03 PM
    But you expecting more - how do you know you will be ready then? There's a possibility that you will want them to hold off forever.

    Also why do you want to hold off till marriage? 


    I'm old fashioned. I want to save myself for that special person. BUT, who knows, it could be my libido and the fact I rarely get periods. ::shrug::

    Also, z10, are you and your spouse together?
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #66 - December 18, 2010, 11:38 PM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on December 18, 2010, 10:20 PM
    I guess I'd never find someone to hold off until marriage. :\


    Why does it have to be after marriage?

    I mean sure, don't put out on a first date as that would most likely signal to most men you are easy to get imo.
    But wait a few months. If the guy likes you, I'm sure he can hang on for 4/5 months
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #67 - December 18, 2010, 11:43 PM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on December 18, 2010, 11:36 PM


    Also, z10, are you and your spouse together?


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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #68 - December 18, 2010, 11:44 PM
    Quote from: Loki on December 18, 2010, 11:38 PM
    Why does it have to be after marriage?

    I mean sure, don't put out on a first date as that would most likely signal to most men you are easy to get imo.
    But wait a few months. If the guy likes you, I'm sure he can hang on for 4/5 months


    I'm REALLY traditional. Though, if I really like the guy maybe before marriage... but it wouldn't be right off the bat. I'd really have to get to know him and well all that love stuff. I never been in love, so in all honesty, I don't know what it feels like.
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #69 - December 18, 2010, 11:45 PM
    Quote from: z10 on December 18, 2010, 11:43 PM
    indeed



     Afro Awesome. Smiley Did you know your spouse beforehand (before you dated)?
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #70 - December 18, 2010, 11:47 PM
    Saying "only after marriage" is like saying "in the first month or fuck off". It's like the issue of sex matters too much, it's posed as a criterium which constrains the development of the relationship.
    Why would it have to be one or the other, and not just let it be and enjoy it? Maybe you'll come to not wanting it until after marriage, or to wanting it the second month. Your and your partner's choice, not a random constraint put beforehand.
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #71 - December 18, 2010, 11:49 PM
    Well, like I said I am traditional and I have issues about anyone just entering me. I honestly dunno if I want it. It sort of freaks me out. In all honesty, I'd feel better waiting until after marriage just because of how I was raised. That's why I have that criteria. (I also don't want to go on the pill.)
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #72 - December 18, 2010, 11:51 PM
    That's a reason to not want it until ... you want it. It doesn't truly depend on a piece of paper, does it? It's not being married would make it truly more desirable, if you do not desire it.

    That may make it for an unfortunate marriage, too, you see.
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #73 - December 18, 2010, 11:51 PM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on December 18, 2010, 11:44 PM
    I'm REALLY traditional. Though, if I really like the guy maybe before marriage... but it wouldn't be right off the bat. I'd really have to get to know him and well all that love stuff. I never been in love, so in all honesty, I don't know what it feels like.


    Well, I've never been in love either but well, good luck in your quest.

    If anything, when I eventually get in a relationship. I'll be the impatient one who wants sex  whistling2
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #74 - December 18, 2010, 11:54 PM
    Quote from: Winna on December 18, 2010, 11:51 PM
    That's a reason to not want it until ... you want it. It doesn't truly depend on a piece of paper, does it? It's not being married would make it truly more desirable, if you do not desire it.

    That may make it for an unfortunate marriage, too, you see.


    I dunno. I'd feel better with the ring and paper, but that's me. Then again, I could be used and they'd only use it for the sex. I have a friend and that happened to her. She ended up getting pregnant and he divorced her. It seems like I would have to find a religious person to get this and to be honest, which I don't really want a religious person because I'm not religious.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #75 - December 18, 2010, 11:56 PM
    Maybe you just worry too much. Wink
    Just let it be and don't force yourself, nor your partner. Either in a marriage or sex for the sake of some pressure - of any kind.
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #76 - December 18, 2010, 11:59 PM
    I just really don't want to go on the pill and my mom involves herself in my business and if she found out I had sex, she'd force me on the pill.

    And plus, she'd tell my aunts and family members and yeah, I hate that. That's another reason why I'd really like to wait until marriage. My mom can't butt in, wouldn't have to go on the pill and it would be more traditional.
    Quote from: Mount A Bison on September 26, 2010, 03:19 PM
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #77 - December 19, 2010, 12:00 AM

    What is wrong with the pill?
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #78 - December 19, 2010, 12:01 AM
    I just don't believe in it and plus it would mess with the other meds I'm on. Unless the doctor makes me go on it (which he might because I don't get my periods anymore; I have never been regular), then I'll go on it for health issues.

    I'm on antidepressants and eventually I am going to have to go on thyroid meds. My levels are really out of whack. The hormones in the pill just don't mix with them. In fact, the thyroid medicines advise you not to take the pill.
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #79 - December 19, 2010, 12:06 AM
    In that case no doctor would give you the pill, regardless of what your mother wants.
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #80 - December 19, 2010, 12:08 AM
    I just feel like I have way too many health issues; it makes me frustrated.

    I told the guy I like yesterday about my hypothyroidism and mentioned I was on Zoloft after he mentioned he was on it before. Is that bad?
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #81 - December 19, 2010, 12:37 AM
    Quote from: pierced_beauty on December 19, 2010, 12:01 AM
    I just don't believe in it

    That actually made me lol by the way it was worded.

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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #82 - December 19, 2010, 01:35 AM
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #83 - December 19, 2010, 12:30 PM
    Quote from: muddy on December 18, 2010, 10:53 PM
    clap

    Great answer. I take it as if you weren't having sex before, sex would have been a real important factor in relationship.

    The same view goes for many women.

    This thread is stupid.
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #84 - December 19, 2010, 12:55 PM

    You can't generalise, it changes with time.

    Definitely there is a stage where all a fella wants is to shag. But when you get older companionship becomes important too.

    Having said that, I don't think the dog gene ever completely leaves a man.

    But then, neither does the desire for companionship and security in a romantic relationship.

    Shit is complex, yo.



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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #85 - December 19, 2010, 01:06 PM
    Yeah, I heard that Billy. When does the companionship enter importance for men? I am seeking that.
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #86 - December 19, 2010, 01:10 PM
    you can never be truly companions with a girl, if u haven't mixed the body fluids... Ok, ok, i don't wanna sound arrogant, i just think that a relationship without the erotic/sexual component can't last long... You will loose the interest in a bottle of wine if u cant open and drink it...
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #87 - December 19, 2010, 01:13 PM
    There's gotta be someone out there who doesn't care that much. Is there any guys with a very low libido?
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #88 - December 19, 2010, 01:13 PM
    It is rare that anyone (including women) would ever seek a relationship with only companionship and no sex. Sex is an integral part of a relationship. You're looking for a niche group there pierced_beauty, wish you all the luck with it though.
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  • Re: Men are only after sex in a relationship?
     Reply #89 - December 19, 2010, 01:16 PM
    Thanks. Smiley I dunno, I just have no sex drive. I dunno if it's the fact I don't get my period often or what.
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