Hello! American transplant in Saudi
OP - October 12, 2014, 08:44 PM
From my SN it's obvious I'm from the states. Raises in NY (upstate) and relocated to TN in my early 20's. That's where I met my husband. A Saudi, Sunni Muslim. We've been married for 8 years. He adopted my daughter from a previous relationship when she was 5. She is 10 now.
We came to Saudi as a permanent relocation at the end of July. It's been miserable. I hate everything about this place and his sisters don't make it any easier.
I never truly converted to Islam as I always had questions about things. He didn't seem bothered by it and didn't have any extreme tendencies with Islam. His things were simple, dress modestly, wudu and pray 5 times per day, masjid on Friday, no pork, no alcohol. Simple. Nothing about that was difficult.
Moving here has shown me the real side of Islam. The side that we hear about, but are told is just lies against Islam. I see this now. There are 2 Islams: the real one and the beautified version for the media and non-Muslims. His sisters are always telling us stories about bullshit that makes no sense. They are always pumping my kids full of crap. If you listen to music then when you go to the hell fire shaytan will pour lava in your ears. Here come dance to this loud music just say stagfirlillah however many times and it will be erased from your deeds. Hide your beauty, but you must stay beautiful. You must tweeze, wax, henna your hair, have your brows and draw them on perfectly, wear fancy thoubes with your boons hanging out with high heel shoes and tons of MAC makeup, gawdy big costume jewelry, etc. But, you must cover it all with Abaya and niqab.
Um, what? I have 5 kids and they stress me to no end. Yes, I am getting grey hair. No, I will not henna my hair even if you tell me Allah says I must. I don't wear makeup and I won't, period. I won't take off all my pubic hair to match my 7 year old daughter. Thanks, but I'll pass.
I won't circumcise my infant son so he can be like Mohammed. They actually told my daughters that if you don't circumcise a boy then as he gets older the skin will get smaller and close the hole and the boy won't be able to urinate. What?!!
I am surrounded by stupidity and hostility. I live in a house where they crush moth balls up and sprinkle them on the floors as carpet freshener. They hand giant baseball sized moth balls in the bathroom an pour little ppuddles of gasoline in the bathroom as air freshener and follow that with a big cloudy room of Oud.
this stuff is killing me. I'm too natural for this shit and all their stories are too illogical to dismiss.
I believed in Islam more before coming to the capital of Islam.
And I miss grass :(
Topic: Hello! American transplant in Saudi