I understand, I didn't mean for you to leave as a Muslim. The two years away might give them some time to accept you not being a Muslim anymore. Then again, you should start accepting the idea that that might never happen. I don't say this to be mean, just that bracing yourself for the worst that can happen might help in dealing with it.
Yes, I know Trustworthy. I think they won't accept me. I'm going to think the worst case scenario.. I know my parents and I never had a good relationship with them so maybe it won't be hard for me.
Can I text you? We seem to be in a similar situation^^
Have you thought of doing a TEFL course and applying to teach English in Japan? Its actually a really good way to get away. It helps if you ave a degree and teaching experience, but that isn't absolutely necessary
here's a helpful link:
http://www.onlinetefl.com/Welcome and good luck
I thought that only who's english native speaker can teach english all over the world.
However, thank you and I think this is also a good idea!!
Welcome to the forum, ArielTi
I agree with everyone else here that you should try not to go too far with your parents until you're financially independent.
Thank you Al-Alethia I'll do so^^
Welcome to the forum ArielTi, have a rabbit!
I'm sorry to hear about the difficult experiences you've had in your life so far. I think you need to think about your future and the kind of life you want to live, and my own advice would be to leave from your parents once you've completed your studies, and are ready and financially independent. I know its a difficult thing for people whom family has been such a central part of life, but sometimes such bold decisions are necessary. Best of luck with everything, and I hope you enjoy it here.
Yes, I think it's the best solution if I want to live my life and not theirs. It will be hard but I think in the end I'll try it..
I'm just hoping that day will come soon^^
Thank you for your kind word asbie!
Welcome!
Another new introductory thread makes a comment about pseudoscience amongst Muslims, and googling I came across a wikiIslam site discussing "death anxiety"
Looking at wiki islam generally I felt it to be very uneven, one article for example pointing out logical fallacies, another saying something couldn't be correct because Allah said! blah blah!
It sounds like you are highly intelligent and educated but possibly this is making your parents very insecure.
It feels as if Islam has very strong traditions of being fearful and stoping thinking that individuals are meeting here because parents, relatives, acquaintances continually reinforce the status quo.
No answers here, but maybe thinking about what is happening may lead to insights.
Yes, your true one of the basis of Islam is to fear and love God. Most of believers are scared of Allah and of Hell so if you're scared you're going to do as God told you. Unfortunately for my parents, I was never afraid of God, nor I loved him.
Mmh nobody ever answered me to some questions. They even told you can't question yourself about some stuff because they'll lead you in a bad road. I even asked to my cousin once why can't we eat meat. You know what they answered me?
It's because pig doesn't cry and it's not a sensitive animal in fact those who eat are cold people. While Camel is the only animal who has tears (not true) and it's a sensitive animal. What a stupid and non sense answer.
However thank you Moi^^
Finalmente trovo un'altra ragazza italiana su questo forum. Mi dispiace per la tua situazione, ma ti assicuro che presto potraì riconquistare la tua libertà .
Anch'io più o meno sono nella tua (e di molti altri) situazione.
Quando ero in Italia (ora vivo a Londra sempre con i miei) ne ho dovuto passarne delle belle. Quando iniziai ad andare alla scuola media, i miei mi constrinsero a mettermi il velo e di non avere amici maschi.
Ogni volto che uscivo con i miei, avevo sempre paura che se qualche mio compagno di classe (maschio) mi salutasse, sarai finita nella merda.
Purtroppo i miei mi tolsero ogni libertà alla sola età di 9 anni...
Non ho avuto un'adolescenza normale. E la cosa che mi irrita di piu' e' che mio fratello poteva e può fare tutto ciò che vuole.
Ora che ci siamo trasferiti a Londra, ho due possibilità:
-O continuo a vivere così ( seguendo le loro stupide regole)
-O mi riconquisto la mia libertà, a costo di non rivedere più i miei famigliari per il resto della mia vita.
Io non so se tu hai una relazione buona con i tuoi, però in casi delicati come questi, è meglio pensare alla propria sicurezza prima di tutto.
Scusa se non capisci ciò che voglio dire esattamente (mi ci vorebbero pagine lol), però ti auguro buona fortuna.
E benvenuta tra noi!! Di sicuro gli altri potranno darti un consiglio migliore.
Ommioddio che bello!! Hahaha il mio inglese è terribile vero? Mi sto vergognando un sacco. Finalmente un po' di italiano.
Wow che fortuna che sei a Londra!!
Mi dispiace per la tua situazione, ti capisco fin troppo ><
Ti va di conoscerci meglio e scambiarci qualche idea magari? Sarei interassata alla tua storia e vorrei vedere se insieme magari riusciamo ad aiutarci e a risolvere la situazione^^
Piacere carissima e fammi sapere;)
^Italian is a nice language.
Welcome ArielTi!
Thank you Descent!!:)
Topic: The story of a hijabi non-muslim girl. Please I need some advice!