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  • Strange things on facebook
     OP - March 20, 2012, 09:15 PM

    Guys something strange happened to me on facebook . I had a friend , kurdish guy; we met on United Kurdish people.  He told me he is no longer muslim; he also asserted that he hated the fact that Kurds accepted  Arabic ideology called islam.

    We had normal and friendly conversation (nothing flirty) both on face and skype. Yesterday I  found out  he is no longer on skype. We are still friends  on face, but he ignored my messages ,i mean PM.
    I am a little bit confused about this change of attitude. Is he really an ex-muslim or someone pretending  ? 

    Isn't it funny how cats can understand people without ever reading a single psychology book?
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #1 - March 20, 2012, 09:20 PM

    ummmm maybe he is busy?

    When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
    Helen Keller
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #2 - March 20, 2012, 09:24 PM

    I posted a message on his wall; hi, I don't see you on skype, he erased that.  Huh? Huh?

    Isn't it funny how cats can understand people without ever reading a single psychology book?
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #3 - March 20, 2012, 09:37 PM

    maybe he isnt interested, and feels like you are stalking him.


    edit: let me add sweetie, theres alot of strange people on the
    internet.  theres no telling whats up.  you could drive yourself
    crazy trying to figure it out.  Just relax, and if he is interested,
    he will contact you.

    When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
    Helen Keller
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #4 - March 20, 2012, 09:41 PM

    ok maybe i am a stalker... Kiss

    But we had completely normal, civilized conversation. And suddenly my messages are being deleted and ignored. It's not like I posted 500 mesages to him...

    Isn't it funny how cats can understand people without ever reading a single psychology book?
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #5 - March 20, 2012, 09:43 PM

    or maybe... he is just weird! LOL

    When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
    Helen Keller
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #6 - March 20, 2012, 11:13 PM

    Or maybe he has a GF or someone else and he doesn't want her to see you writing on his wall.

  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #7 - March 20, 2012, 11:16 PM

    You should never expect from/invest emotionally in online acquantances as you will be hurt/disappointed if they do something you don't like. 

    "Nobody who lived through the '50s thought the '60s could've existed. So there's always hope."-Tuli Kupferberg

    What apple stores are like.....

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8QmZWv-eBI
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #8 - March 20, 2012, 11:27 PM

    well he could answer me in PM

    Isn't it funny how cats can understand people without ever reading a single psychology book?
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #9 - March 20, 2012, 11:29 PM

    You should never expect from/invest emotionally in online acquantances as you will be hurt/disappointed if they do something you don't like. 


    I have a lot of contacts with whom i speak openly,normally...so it surprises me when people suddenly start ignoring without any justified reason.

    Isn't it funny how cats can understand people without ever reading a single psychology book?
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #10 - March 20, 2012, 11:32 PM

    well he could answer me in PM


    yes he could..

    it could be nothing.. he could be busy or something..  but ..

    unfortunately some people feel the need to avoid /ignore people when they no longer want to stay in contact instead of just coming out and saying so..(if this is the case)..  no matter what his reason is merry_squirrel.. ask yourself if you still want to be friends with someone like that..
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #11 - March 20, 2012, 11:36 PM

    ^btw.. i would rather have the gut wrenching truth vs. a nice brush off/avoidance any day..
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #12 - March 20, 2012, 11:46 PM

    You'll find that people on the internet, as in real life, can be flaky as all hell. Speaking from close personal experience here. I wouldn't think too much of it.
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #13 - March 20, 2012, 11:58 PM

    ^btw.. i would rather have the gut wrenching truth vs. a nice brush off/avoidance any day..


    that's true...

    Isn't it funny how cats can understand people without ever reading a single psychology book?
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #14 - March 21, 2012, 12:43 AM

    You should never expect from/invest emotionally in online acquantances as you will be hurt/disappointed if they do something you don't like. 


    Doesn't the same apply to RL acquaintances?

    قل للمليحة في الخمار الأسود
    مـاذا فـعــلت بــناسـك مـتـعـبد

    قـد كـان شـمّر لــلـصلاة ثـيابه
    حتى خـطرت له بباب المسجد

    ردي عليـه صـلاتـه وصيـامــه
    لا تـقــتـلــيه بـحـق ديــن محمد
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #15 - March 21, 2012, 12:53 AM

    ^ Yes but having an online friend is weird.

    i mean just chill with people in real life not online

    It is us humans that assert purpose onto an otherwise purposeless cosmos and then claim divine inspiration 

    In my opinion a life without curiosity is not a life worth living

    My Philosophy: " Fear no one and challenge everyone "
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #16 - March 21, 2012, 12:55 AM

    ... why?

    قل للمليحة في الخمار الأسود
    مـاذا فـعــلت بــناسـك مـتـعـبد

    قـد كـان شـمّر لــلـصلاة ثـيابه
    حتى خـطرت له بباب المسجد

    ردي عليـه صـلاتـه وصيـامــه
    لا تـقــتـلــيه بـحـق ديــن محمد
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #17 - March 21, 2012, 12:59 AM

    ^ Yes but having an online friend is weird.

    i mean just chill with people in real life not online


    You are portraying it like there are two different species of humans: Online humans and real life humans. Believe it or not many people you know in real life are also online. Like friends, co-workers, classmates etc. Wink

    "Beauty is truth, truth beauty," - that is all
            Ye know on earth, and all ye need to know.

    - John Keats
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #18 - March 21, 2012, 01:02 AM

    @ Harakaat  because in real life your actually doing something with the person or even if your not and your just sitting an talking there is still more of a personal connection and bond than just typing and looking at a computer screen. And plus you even know your real life acquaintances an coworkers better than online friends because you have never met or chilled with them.

    There is a huge difference

    It is us humans that assert purpose onto an otherwise purposeless cosmos and then claim divine inspiration 

    In my opinion a life without curiosity is not a life worth living

    My Philosophy: " Fear no one and challenge everyone "
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #19 - March 21, 2012, 01:03 AM

    You are portraying it like there are two different species of humans: Online humans and real life humans. Believe it or not many people you know in real life are also online. Like friends, co-workers, classmates etc. Wink

     

    No i mean having friends that you ONLY know online and have NEVER met is weird. I don't mean chatting with real life friends online

    It is us humans that assert purpose onto an otherwise purposeless cosmos and then claim divine inspiration 

    In my opinion a life without curiosity is not a life worth living

    My Philosophy: " Fear no one and challenge everyone "
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #20 - March 21, 2012, 01:19 AM

    @ Harakaat  because in real life your actually doing something with the person or even if your not and your just sitting an talking there is still more of a personal connection and bond than just typing and looking at a computer screen. And plus you even know your real life acquaintances an coworkers better than online friends because you have never met or chilled with them.

    There is a huge difference


    I disagree. Just because you can see someone's face doesn't mean there's more of a personal connection. I can tell you this from experience. And if you're so obsessed with faces, there's always webcams. And I know some people I have never met much better than I know my own parents.

    قل للمليحة في الخمار الأسود
    مـاذا فـعــلت بــناسـك مـتـعـبد

    قـد كـان شـمّر لــلـصلاة ثـيابه
    حتى خـطرت له بباب المسجد

    ردي عليـه صـلاتـه وصيـامــه
    لا تـقــتـلــيه بـحـق ديــن محمد
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #21 - March 21, 2012, 01:20 AM

    There's a girl in my city that used to go to my old school. We've never met, but we've spent dozens of hours talking to each other online. And I'm closer to her than I am to the vast majority of my RL friends.

    قل للمليحة في الخمار الأسود
    مـاذا فـعــلت بــناسـك مـتـعـبد

    قـد كـان شـمّر لــلـصلاة ثـيابه
    حتى خـطرت له بباب المسجد

    ردي عليـه صـلاتـه وصيـامــه
    لا تـقــتـلــيه بـحـق ديــن محمد
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #22 - March 21, 2012, 03:15 AM

    I disagree. Just because you can see someone's face doesn't mean there's more of a personal connection. I can tell you this from experience. And if you're so obsessed with faces, there's always webcams. And I know some people I have never met much better than I know my own parents.

     

    I think you have a point. It depends on what types of social interactions each person prefers. I can only bond with people face to face but then again some other people might bond with others differently

    It is us humans that assert purpose onto an otherwise purposeless cosmos and then claim divine inspiration 

    In my opinion a life without curiosity is not a life worth living

    My Philosophy: " Fear no one and challenge everyone "
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #23 - March 21, 2012, 04:38 AM

    And plus you even know your real life acquaintances an coworkers better than online friends because you have never met or chilled with them.

    There is a huge difference

    Exactly - the difference between a tree and it's shadow.
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #24 - March 21, 2012, 05:02 AM

    ^btw.. i would rather have the gut wrenching truth vs. a nice brush off/avoidance any day..


    If I'm ignoring you it's because I'm busy. Promise.

    "That it is indeed the speech of an illustrious messenger" (The Koran 69:40)
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #25 - March 21, 2012, 01:28 PM

    Exactly - the difference between a tree and it's shadow.


    Why?

    قل للمليحة في الخمار الأسود
    مـاذا فـعــلت بــناسـك مـتـعـبد

    قـد كـان شـمّر لــلـصلاة ثـيابه
    حتى خـطرت له بباب المسجد

    ردي عليـه صـلاتـه وصيـامــه
    لا تـقــتـلــيه بـحـق ديــن محمد
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #26 - March 21, 2012, 04:36 PM

     

    No i mean having friends that you ONLY know online and have NEVER met is weird. I don't mean chatting with real life friends online


    ive had a good online friend for over 10 years. we have never met.  But I know her
    more than i know some irl friends lol.  I know all her kids, her grandkids, her friends,
    etc.  how is that weird?

    When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.
    Helen Keller
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #27 - March 21, 2012, 05:01 PM

    All I was saying btw is that due to deindividuation (meaning 'masked persoanlity and anonymity') on the net, you may find that some people are less responsible/polite than they would be IRL. That's why 'normal' people feel happy trolling on the internet and that's why youtube comments are mostly retarded.

    In all seriousness though, I'm not saying you can't have and maintain a good friendship with internet contacts, I'm just saying that until one is very familiar with them, one shouldn't be too disappointed by any of their actions as you would be with a real life friend. But generally, friendship can and does exist everywhere, including the internet, it's just that anonymity can change how people act at times-including 'normal people'.

    For more on deindividuation read  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deindividuation

    Derren Brown did an excellent show on it called the gameshow in which ordinary people turned into merciless bullies when they felt they were part of a crowd.

    The gameshow can be seen here

    http://www.channel4.com/programmes/derren-brown-the-experiments/4od#3258649

    or here

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M4shngySiIU&oref=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fresults%3Fsearch_query%3Dderren%2Bbrown%2Bthe%2Bgameshow%26oq%3Dderren%2Bbrown%2Bthe%2Bgameshow%26aq%3Df%26aqi%3Dg7%26aql%3D%26gs_sm%3D3%26gs_upl%3D389l4127l0l4204l26l24l1l10l10l0l269l1480l8.4.1l13l0&has_verified=1





    "Nobody who lived through the '50s thought the '60s could've existed. So there's always hope."-Tuli Kupferberg

    What apple stores are like.....

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8QmZWv-eBI
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #28 - March 22, 2012, 11:30 PM

    This is getting amusing.

     Guy opened a new facebook account under which he wrote that ''jew Marcus Zuckerberg and America'' should answer for crimes against Kurdish people (there was a rumour that Facebook will ban kurdish flag). When some of other members of the group expressed disaggrement , their post suspiciously dissappeared. So much for freedom of expression. dance

    There is something fishy going on. whistling2

    Isn't it funny how cats can understand people without ever reading a single psychology book?
  • Re: Strange things on facebook
     Reply #29 - March 22, 2012, 11:32 PM

    Sounds like a bigot and a tribalist.

    "Nobody who lived through the '50s thought the '60s could've existed. So there's always hope."-Tuli Kupferberg

    What apple stores are like.....

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8QmZWv-eBI
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